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For the Love of Self Care

by aformentin 03/01/2021

Hi beauties, Happy Monday!

I hope you all had a great weekend and indulged in some time for yourselves. As mothers|women it is very easy for us to put ourselves on the back burner and forget about our needs. I know for a fact the first time I became a mother, I totally lost who I was as a person. I knew exactly who I was as Max’s mom but not a clue who I was as an individual. The scariest part was I didn’t even realize it until Max was about 4. 4 years of having no idea who I was, what my interests were and what I enjoyed other than being a mom.

As soon as I realized I slowly but surely started getting to know myself and exploring to find out more about myself. One thing I learned pretty quickly is that I have to take care of myself first so that I can be the bet version of myself for my kids. Self care is super important for me and figuring that out for myself was was extremely enlightening but always came with a lot of guilt. I enjoyed doing things for myself but wouldn’t because of how guilty I felt when I wasn’t with the kids or wasn’t around to take care of them.

Slowly but surely I began to feel resentment because I knew exactly what I needed to do to feel better but I wouldn’t. At the end of the day the only person that could change that was me. I had to stop thinking what people thought or I assumed they thought and do what was best for my mental health. Self care for me means doing my hair and makeup, running errands BY MY SELF, girls night out, literally anything that I can do in a relaxed manner thug doesn’t involve me repeating myself 100 times, yelling or putting myself last.

I also enjoy doing things for myself while being home, like a nice bath after the kids’ bed time. A hot bath, some aromatherapy, a nice candle and some wine will always do the trick! I recently incorporated exfoliating to my bath time and let me tell you, Life’s Butter Exfoliating Body Scrub does not disappoint! You can use it on your face & body (which you guys know how much I love multi-purpose products) and it helps fight acne, fades scars and cellulite and also helps with stretch marks. Best of all it smells like coffee! If your interested in trying any of their products you can use my code “ALESSA10” for $10 off of your purchase of $40 or more.

Now don’t get me wrong, my kids’ well being and their health is a priority and I love being a mother, it’s probably the one thing I am most confident in. But I am not just a mother, I am my own person. Everyone needs a little break and there is nothing wrong with that. So stop the mom shaming & carry on!

xx,

Alessa

03/01/2021 0 comment

Mommy | Lifestyle

Fall Fun | Weeds Orchard & Winery

by aformentin 10/05/2020

written by aformentin

Hey lovebugs!

Long time no talk! I have seriously been so MIA with homeschooling, housebuilding and trying to survive this crazy last month but we finally were able to do something fun and go apple picking this past weekend in Warwick, NY at Weeds Orchard and Winery. It was the most beautiful fall day and we enjoyed ourselves so much!

We decided to arrive early because they don’t take reservations and we obviously didn’t want to be turned away. We arrived shortly after 11 am and the timing was perfect (not too hot, not freezing.) The lines were fairly short and we were able to get right on in with an admission fee of only $3 for everyone over the age of 2. Once we got there we quickly realized there was no way Esme was going to want to walk and thank you to Weeds we were able to rent wagons for $5, talk about lifesaver!

Once you’re in the orchard you’re able to start your day with picking or their amazing Apple Cider Sangria. It was so good, I’d go back just for that! As we walked we found there was other produce available to pick such as tomatoes and peppers. As we picked the kids played on their jungle gym and enjoyed themselves.

Once we picked all of our apples and took advantage of all of our photo opps, we decided it was time for some adult fun! We headed over to the bar that was equipped with beer, wine & sangria and settled in to hear the live bands that play music every weekend from 1-4 pm (see schedule here). Although we didn’t eat there they do offer outdoor dining with farm to table dining. I will say lines were long, but totally worth it for their fresh, warm apple cider donuts and the bakery smelled delicious!

Aside from all the fun stuff I know everyone wants to know what businesses and activities are like with COVID Regulations. The orchard states masks must be worn at all times unless seated. We wore our masks and only took them off for our pictures and to drink our drinks. There are some amenities that are not available at the time such as wine tastings, flights, hayrides and corn maze. With that being said I hope next year when things are calm we can return to have the whole experience. Since tables are on a first come first serve and there is no time limit, Weeds does suggest and insist on families bringing chairs and blankets to be able to make their own seating.

If your looking to go apple picking in the next few weeks make sure to check out Weeds Orchard & Winery and click here for more information!

10/05/2020 0 comment

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How To Optimize Your Instagram To Make Money Online With LadyBossBlogger

by aformentin 06/19/2020

written by aformentin

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As most of you know I have been on my blogging/instagramming journey for a little over a year. It has been a year full of excitement, disappointments, ups, downs, and everything in between.

Whoever says being a successful blogger and influencer is easy lied to you! Although this started out as a hobby it has slowly but surely turned into a brand that I’m so very proud of. Yes, I love it but I also see how much work and time I put into it and was ready to start making a steady income for my time.

Now, don’t throw any shade and suggest if I love it so much I should want to continue creating for free. I know many makeup artists & freelancers that love their career and guess what, they are not doing it for free!

As you all may know, when researching certain topics and learning about them it can get very overwhelming very fast. I have done research for months and have definitely learned and made some money on the side but I have never been able to create a steady and passive income.

I want to say thank you to LadyBossBlogger & Elaine Rau for sponsoring this post and having so much useful information in one place for me on her How To Make Money As An Instagram Influencer course.

The course is designed for beginner to intermediate influencers wanting to get to the next level. That’s me!! I was very excited to get started to say the least.

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I was able to download the link through Teachable and get started right away. I’m always skeptical about courses because I always felt I could find what I needed via search engines, boy was I wrong.

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It took me about a week to get through and a notebook full of notes for me to go back on and start implementing her techniques and advice. I’m thrilled to get started and start seeing results and I will definitely follow up with you all.

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06/19/2020 0 comment

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WHY SLEEP IS SO IMPORTANT TO YOUR HEALTH

by aformentin 06/09/2020

written by aformentin

I can’t tell you how bad my sleep habits have been since having kids. I used to be able to sleep through a hurricane but now I literally can not sleep through a pin dropping after I became a mom. I literally say “I’m so tired” or “I can’t wait for bed” at least once a day. As an exhausted mom of two I find it incredibly difficult to catch a good night’s sleep. As soon as my head hits the pillow as tired as I am, my brain just will not shut off.

Getting a good nights sleep is a fundamental part to a healthy lifestyle. There is so much that goes on while you are sleeping such as the healing of heart and red blood vessels. It’s linked to higher body weight, greater risk of heart disease and stroke, as well as depression and a weaker immune system.

There are so many things you can do to improve your sleep schedule. A few are minimizing blue light and phone use right before bed, make sure the your bedroom temperature is ok for you, go to bed with an “empty” brain and clear your head, you can try to do this by meditating.

If you have tried all of these options and still can’t sleep you can always try a supplement. Whenever I take supplements I always make sure they are derived from naturally sourced ingredients so that I know I am only adding natural and less chemically based ingredients to my body. I was able to try a few supplements from Salud Para Todos with one of them being Titulus Somno and sleep health and mood stabilizer. After taking them for a few weeks, I have noticed great improvement in my sleeping habits. There products are natural, vegetarian, holistic and globally sourced ingredients. I love when I know exactly what is going into my body!

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Happy & Healthy Sleeping!

Alessa

06/09/2020 2 comments

Mommy | Lifestyle

Financial Literacy for Kids 101

by aformentin 05/29/2020

written by aformentin

Hi guys!

A few weeks ago I was sent a book for Max, Peter Saves For A Rainy Day by Rosanna Guadavaccaro and it got me thinking about the topic big time. Rosanna is a NYC Financial Advisor and decided to write this book to teach children financial literacy – a topic that most parents don’t speak about.

So I got to reading and researching and low and behold I read on an article that only 16% of millennials ages 18-26 felt optimistic about their financial future. Like WHAT?! Only 16%, yes. So as a millennial it’s no one else job but ours to break that cycle for our children. It is our job to give our children the necessary tools and knowledge to succeed, finances included. I don’t know where this topic became almost like a taboo to speak about in from of our kids, maybe when we started babying them and essentially ruining them. Because in 1935 when little Richard was already working at the age of 8, trust me he knew the value of a dollar.

I am one of those parents that want to shelter her children and protect them and keep their innocence alive as long as possible but this really got me thinking. There are so many things that you can introduce to them financially that are age appropriate. I’m not saying they have to learn how to balance a checking account at the age of 5 but there are life skills and habits that definitely can be instilled at an early age. Here are a few: